Archive for May, 2010

Helping people!

Friday, May 14th, 2010

Helping people is a noble, good, rewarding mission in life. For some people somehow it automatically flows and just comes out of them. For other people is a foreign subject and not the natural thing to do. Perhaps those people who find it foreign, were not exposed or instructed, or led by a parent to be helpful to others. Perhaps if they were told that they were born to help others, in their minds they were wondering: what are the others for? Seriously, helping others is a very rewarding and loving thing to do. When we are able to help others it is important to have an open mind and sharp discernment , because we do not want to enable others so much as to hinders their growth.
On the other hand some people do not want to be helped, they see it as an intrusion, or as an invasion of their space and privacy and territory. Our help sometimes can cause friction, if the person does not really want our help. We must be careful to offer the help and to accept the consequence when our help is not welcome. Good intentions can sometimes be misinterpreted by the recipient of the action. When you offer your help, you make yourself vulnerable, but this is part of life. It is what it is.

Lasting friendships.

Thursday, May 13th, 2010

Which friendships are lasting? Triangular friendships are the ones that last forever. How do you know this? It is very simple. The elements of that friendship are three, you and the other person and God in the middle. God wants you to have friends, he wants you to love one another, he wants you to wish the best for the other person, if you only wish the best and do what is best for the other person, this can only turn into a lasting friendship. You can be miles apart from each other,furthermore, if you have not seen each other in months or even years, you can continue your friendship when you meet again. A real friend does not try to take advantage of the other person. A friend could be your brother or your sister, however not all brothers or sisters could be friends. The beautiful thing is that you can choose your friends, sadly you can not choose your brothers or sisters or even your parents. It is a great blessing to have lasting friendships particularly if your friends are your relatives, sisters, brothers and/or parents. Lasting friendships are based on respect, appreciation and love. The expression of that love is like a glue that bonds and makes it a lasting friendship.

Adolescents grieve and mourn too.

Thursday, May 13th, 2010

It is a complicated matter just to think of the death of a person of a younger sibling, friend . Often a young adolescent can maintain what we can call a personal fable of invulnerability or even immortality. That fable is maintained until something happens, perhaps the death of a person of their own age. If the person who died enjoyed a real closeness to the adolescent, the personal fable is shaken. Usually adolescents have limited experience in coping with such demands, and find it very difficult to integrate the truth of those realities.
It is good for the adolescent to talk with friends, and to seek social support during the new and difficult experience. This time of distress is relatively transient.
It is important to remember that adolescents are resilient and in the aftermath of a huge loss the difficulties that they go through, may actually enhance many adolescents to turn into or to become more inter personally and emotionally mature.

It comes at a high price to become more mature, but such encounters in life help the adolescent to value, to appreciate those around him or her, parents, grandparents and others while they are alive.

It is a challenge to face and grieve and mourn when someone you love dies, however it is part of life.

Reading can create sweet memories!

Tuesday, May 11th, 2010

Reading to your two, three, five year old, and even to your nine year old creates a sweet memory for both you and your child. You form a strong bond with your children. You also have something to talk about, when they grow older and they go through a difficult face in their existence. You can resort to those times when you read together, remember those precious moments when you took time to read, even though you have so many other things to do. When you read recipes and made bread, friendship bread you could take to school to share.Even the cat would want to join when you sat down to read. What a wonderful time you had when you could not go anywhere because you got snowed in, however you could make some hot chocolate and bake some bread, had your children choose the book of their preference and just be there while,they read to you or you took turns reading the story, with no one to interrupt you to go anywhere,because you were stranded anyway! How fun! Your children will never forget that!

Reading if you have not try it, do. It can be the missing link that joins you and your child forever.

Learning to read, helps you in life!

Tuesday, May 11th, 2010

Help someone to learn the art of reading, it will change that person’s life! It will change your life also, because you will see that person grow and develop into a better equipped person. Reading is a gift you can give, it will not cost you anything. Give of your time to promote this gift, pass it on and on. Reading is such an important skill to learn in life. Adults and children benefit from it. It is a great challenge to take it upon yourself, because you never know why some people do not know how to read. If the person does not seem to learn, maybe they have a special problem with learning disability. If you find that the person you are trying to help does not learn to read even with much help,dedication and perseverance. Find a specialist and make a referral so they can break through the problem in some way unknown to you.

Reading is very important, some people like to read fiction and some non-fiction. Non-fiction is so much a part of our lives, we are surrounded by non-fiction. In other words, we must learn to read real, factual and useful information.

Non-fiction is in our every day activities, for instance: information on how to do things, instruction manuals, fire safety equipment, trouble shooting solutions. Non-fiction reading is based on facts. It helps you get from point A to point B, otherwise you can get lost. Read, read, read, you will find your way around.

Only for men!

Monday, May 10th, 2010

Only men are affected by Prostate and Testicular issues, thus men need to be tested regularly for Prostate cancer, since is the second leading cause of cancer deaths.Interestingly enough the most common form of cancer in white men ages 20-34 is Testicular cancer, the good news is that it is one of the most curable types of cancer when detected at an early stage.
Men need to take time to be examined, there are two types of tests for Prostate cancer screening: a blood test (PSA test) prostate-specific antigen, and a digital rectal exam. There is also a self testicular exam that men can do once a month, check with your doctor or visit a safe website of your choice.

Promote your own health by taking care of yourself. If you have pain, do not ignore it, take something for pain. If the pain does not resolve, see your doctor. Manage your stress, because stress can contribute to the risk of other health issues such as heart disease and elevated blood pressure, these can lead to other unhealthy behaviours, smoking being one of them, overeating is another one.  Do something about your stress level, seek a balance in your daily life.  Eat well, meaning a balanced diet. Do not procrastinate for your own better health.

Cover your back! Sunburn can cause cancer.

Monday, May 10th, 2010

The sun is a wonderful star, however it can cause sunburn to the skin. To avoid sunburn shield the skin with sunscreen that protect against both UVA and UVB. You can also keep the sunlight from damaging your skin wearing protective clothing, ultraviolet-filtering sunglasses. To prevent sunburn, avoid exposure to sun ray intensity, usually the sun’s rays are strongest during the day from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., you can seek shade whenever possible. Avoid standing in the swimming pool or standing in the water at the beach for long periods of time, during the sun’s rays peak hours; sand or snow can intensify the sun’s burning rays when water is reflecting the sun’s rays. The result on your skin can be disastrous.
So keep your sunburn under control with sunscreen, sunblock, lip balm, sunglasses, self-tanning towelettes, wear a sun hat,Aloe vera lotion, moisturizer for face and body, after-sun lotion. Remember that sunscreens can effectively protect your skin from UV rays.

If you have a sunburn try the following: Cool bath or shower, mix baking soda in water, wet washcloth with this mix and place it on the affected area. Something else you can try is soothing aloe vera lotion, it can stop the pain and the swelling.
Some DON’TS: Do not apply petroleum jelly, benzocaine, lidocaine, butter to the sunburn, it only makes it worse.

Anxiety, is it affecting your life?

Monday, May 10th, 2010

It is no secret that anxiety affects many people. Some statistics show that about forty million people in America alone, suffer from some kind of anxiety problem, making the most common mental affliction in the United states. What causes anxiety in the individual, is not fully known. The suspicion is that heredity, brain chemistry, personality and some life events have a great role to play in the whole scheme of things.
The good news is that it is treatable. Seek help, Talk therapy can be highly effective. Anti-anxiety medication can be helpful, however it is physically addictive in the sense that your body will always want it and need it once you start taking it.

Some non-drug tips you can use are: Consult a psychotherapist, join a self-help support group, use stress management techniques. Ask your doctor for suggestions. Research relaxation techniques and find the one that sooths you. Cardiovascular exercise if permitted by your physician, can have a calming effect.
Limit your caffeine intake. If you start taking any anti-anxiety medication be aware of over the counter medications or herbal remedies that may make your anxiety symptoms worse.

Know that you are not alone, please seek help. You will be more productive in everything you do, once you have your anxiety under control.

Depression, who can understand the feeling?

Thursday, May 6th, 2010

Have a discussion with your health care professional about depression. The word depression is thrown around casually, taking for granted that true depression is utterly devastating. The depressed individual can not help it, can not just “snap out of it” and in his or her present state becomes emotionally paralyzed, almost cut off from the stream of everyday life. This becomes a vicious cycle, self-perpetuating.
It depletes the person’s energy to the point of almost no return, the person can not find the energy to seek help, everything seems like an insurmountable task.

No one knows for sure what the cause of the illness is. Causes are complex, experts think that it may be do to an imbalance in the brain’s neurotransmitters , and that genetics play a role  in making  some people to be more prone to depression.

Yes, the person who is in the pit of depression is the only person who can understand the feeling brought by it.

How can one get out of the pit???! Fist one has to understand that depression can cause physical and emotional pain to the one experiencing it and to the family as well.

Someone said: I rather walk with God in the dark, than alone in the light .A very important thing to do if you are depressed is: Do not make or act on big decisions while you are depressed, do not leave a relationship, do not change jobs during this period.  Save yourself more reasons to be depressed.

Mother’s day savings!

Thursday, May 6th, 2010

Do not let the market get you down! During these times of financial difficulties, stress can paralyse your action. Do not allow it! You have a choice. It is not healthy, and it is not worth it. Keep your spirits up and save money in the process as you relieve stress by taking advantage of the following saving many tips:

Share special time with your mom or someone special “like mom”, adoptive mom, a favorite aunt, even your grandmother on Mother’s day. It does not even have to be on Mother’s day exactly, it could be the day after or the day before, or even any day in May.

I was reading the Los Angeles Times today, and on pages D6 through D13 I came across some good deals there. Page D11 if you enjoy Marie Challender’s There is a coupon that offers 50% Price Entree, when you buy one at regular price. It expires June 4,2010. You must remember this is not valid May 9, but valid any day between now and June 4, 2010.
Knott’s Berry Farm has some discount tickets on sale @ knotts.com. The regular adult price $31.99 you pay $22.00, then they have senior discount $19.99 ; Mother’s day brunch also advertised in the same site.
One more option is if you enjoy dancing performances, The Orange County Performing Arts Center, from May 6 through May 8, tickets start at $14.00.