When we have a glimpse of the mark differences in the workings of our brains, we can be more lenient and tolerant of other individuals behavior. We can also have more understanding and empathy as we come across people with brains that work a little bit differently.
How can we help other people with brains that are different, perhaps we need to study more about the subject, to allow us to be more sensitive as we become more informed. It is a two way street, we learn more about it and we benefit from that knowledge. When we are aware of the behaviors elicited by the people who are afflicted by the atypical brain conditions, and are able to save ourselves and others from explosive situations. One example could be our ability to discern when we are faced with someone with a particular brain condition such as dyslexia; if we are trying to help them learn reading and writing, we will not get easily frustrated, because we will be able to realize that they have difficulty learning, names, even the letters of the alphabet, difficulty reading single words that are not in context, we will be able to save time and energy understanding that they have difficulty with reading and comprehension. We will not be frustrated, but be compassionate as we make an effort to help them.
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Understanding others, why not? Part One.
We are all different, due to diversity of our brains. Have you noticed that some people are lefties, other people are righties? Have you the opportunity to work with people who are diagnosed as having attention deficit and hyperactivity, alcoholics, dyslexics, people who have photographic memory, depressed people?Have you an acquaintance who has an autistic child, or who has adopted an autistic child?
The brain is one of the master pieces of creation, however when affected by foreign substances such as lead poisoning, this causes damage to the prefrontal lobes. Researchers at Pittsburgh University have discovered a link between children with lead posoning and children who have been convicted for legally delinquent behavior.Studies are underway to see if there is the same kind of correlation between lead poisoning and children diagnosed as afflicted by ADHD.
There is a misconception about the quality and quantity of our brain cells. People use to think that our brain cells had their peak when we were born. We have learn that our brain development happens after birth, well after birth. We could say that our brain is in “evolution”. After we are born the brain continues to grow and develop. The frontal cortex part of the brain according to some researchers reaches its growth completeness when the person reaches his or her mid-twenties, could even be later. So considering these facts, we can understand why we make poor judgements between the ages of 18 and 26.
Respect is the key!
No one knows for certain what was the true cause for the twin towers collapse. The present reality is that these towers are gone and they took with them many precious innocent people. Those people, left behind their families to morn their loss. Each individual lost can never be brought back, can never be replaced by another human being. The void left in each person left behind will always be there to remind the person of the loss.
At this point and time there is nothing that can be done to replace people. A building can be rebuilt, but the lives of individuals are impossible to recreate, only God can do that.
Whom should be mention as a culprit or the source of all the suffering brought by the twin towers collapse?
In my mind there is one culprit.
A wise men said once that between individuals as well as between nations the respect to the rights of others yields peace. This nugget of knowledge should never be ignored. It can make the difference between life and death, between happiness and unhappiness, between right and wrong, between what is mine and what is yours.
In conclusion, the lack of RESPECT from whomever did the evil act on the USA is the ultimate cause.
Now the least we can do, is to pay our respect to those left behind for their irreplaceable loss.
You Are Wanted by Experiencesinlife.com!!!
Have you thought about sharing your experience with other bloggers? Experiencesinlife.com invites you to participate in writing your very own positive post, to share with the world.
If you are in a position to share your experience with others, with the purpose of having a positive impact on someone, this is your chance to do it. What a better time to do it than today. Please write your experience, your story. You may tell a humorous story, a sad story, a personal story. You may choose who you want to reach and help. Use appropriate language to avoid misunderstandings, be polite and considerate. You may know something no one else knows, tell the world about it. Send your story to eva@experiencesinlife.com so it can be posted for you.
There is much that you may write about, as you write, think of vivid words, you may ask questions; it is good to have the answers to your own questions, to contrast with other opinions. It is good to share what is in your heart.
Today take time to share your life situation, if you so choose. It is all about sharing, helping others learn from your experience or simply venting, again in a kind, caring and positive manner. To reiterate, you are so wanted!
Your uniqueness is your ticket to success!
God made us unique, in a way sort of like the snowflakes. Not a single snowflake is identical. As we learn about ourselves, our , likes, dislikes, what makes us tick, what annoys us, what makes us happy, what drives us, what keeps us getting up in the morning to take the challenges of the day, when we are able to see the big picture about ourselves, we can then and only then channel our energies in the right direction, knowing our strengths is pivotal to everything we do.
Fructity is the result of using your strengths to fulfill your life”s dreams.Play your strengths, use them in your everyday activities, at work, at play, etc. Everyone benefits when you play your strengths, without a doubt! Especially you. You are born with certain strengths, if you pay close attention to how children act at different times, you can start to see what their strengths are, those strengths are the same when they become adults. People really do not change, they just grow older.
When you are born, you are who you are, you were born with strengths, your parents are to train you in the way that you should go, enabeling your strengths to develope and grow so you continue to become more of what you already are.
Your strengths come from God, you must stay connected to him, seek his face, you will only get stronger. Only success can come from your strength connection with him.
Reading helps your communication skills!
Communication skills are also improved by the reading material you select, the more you read, the better you will be able to communicate your thoughts, feelings, and ideas. Your brain gets a work out when you read, your memory also improves.
Choose reading material that will enrich your vocabulary, remember that words have power. If you have children, make sure you are using appropriate words. Children repeat the words you say, when you least expect it. I am positive you can think of some occasion when your child repeated something you candidly said about someone. It can be embarrassing if words used by you were not kind.
Do not take your brain for granted. Your brain is a magnificent computer, take advantage of your intact brain. Feed your brain good physical food and spiritual food. Reading and good nutrition are key factors to keep your brain intact and in excellent condition. Your brain’s temporal lobe is a wonderful station, your brain’s speech center. It is able to interpret the meaning of words. Thanks to the Wernicke’s and Broca’s area of your brain, you can comprehend words and are able to repeat the words. Not every one is as blessed as you are, some people can never read, and interpret words. Make use of the gift of reading and pass it on!
Efficient communication best remedy part 2
Efficient communication is a lifesaver, it makes the difference between having a good relationship and loosing a good relationship. If you want to have a successful relationship you must invest some time acquiring the skills required to be a better communicator. Good relationships are priceless, good investments for life. When you invest yourself and prepare yourself, searching for the best ways to communicate with those around you, the results are amazing. You can not help but attract positive people, and positive events and things happening to you. Remember that whatsoever things are lovely and good and worthy you must think on those things, keep these good thoughts in mind and in your heart, thus only good things can emanate from your mouth, good words, good expressions, from your heart good intentions, good deeds. Seek to understand the other person’s concerns, let the other person know that you acknowledge his or her concerns, if necessary gather more information, so you can make an informed decision when choosing your words.
As a good communicator you empower yourself and also empower the other person, this makes for a better relationship. If you are trying to teach something to your children, finding the right moment, not any moment will do, finding those teachable moments is essential, so that listening can take place thus clear communication.
Communication is the best remedy!
Communication is the spice of life, we can communicate with our family, our coworkers, our neighbors, and when we decide to go shopping with the cashier, or if we go to the bank with the bank clerk, or with the bank manager . We can even communicate with our pets. Communication is part of our everyday lives, thus the great importance we need to place in the way we communicate.
We communicate in many levels, depending on what kind of relationship we have with the other individual. Some research indicates that words are only a small part of our communication, which seems to tell me that we communicate a great deal with our body language, nonverbal cues.
To have a productive communication with anyone we must connect with the other person’s thoughts and feelings, this creates mutual understanding, providing the other person does the same, then problem solving and creative thinking can emerge.
It is imperative that we sharpen up our communication skills if we want to have a better day at work, at home, just every place we go. Good communication allows us to be more assertive, not aggressive, and keeps the avenues open for both parties to disagree agreeably.
How can we communicate effectively? Some ideas that can lead you in the right direction are using , using common sense approach, listening to the other person, show genuine interest in what the other person has to say, ask for clarification if needed, to make sure you have heard correctly. Obviously every situation is unique and it requires case specific response, however if you develop your own style to communicate effectively and use a systematic approach depending on the case by case basis you will acquire a repertoire for most situations. After you practice, it will seem effortless, and people will feel comfortable around you.
Think or create in your mind different scenarios of every day real events where you and another person are active participants, for instance: you notice that your son or daughter drives too fast when going to school, you may try saying something like, ” I am concerned about your safety, please follow the speed limit signs” you notice in this statement you are not being judgemental, only expressing concern, and giving direction.
Forgiveness can change your life! Part 2
You can acquire internal peace as you decide to forgive. Perhaps the person who has hurt you or has done you wrong has long passed away. Forgiveness does at this point only affect you in a good way, because the other person does not know anything anymore, does not have a chance to talk to you to ask for your forgiveness. If you want to live in peace, with inner contentment, serenity, abundant peace of mind, you must let go of the hostile, vitriol, caustic and bitter feelings you are presently hosting in your heart towards this person . These feelings can only cause you to shorten your life. As you relate and fellowship with others, your bitterness comes across, negativity is conveyed dwarfing your relationships.
Take baby steps and make a decision to forgive today, we can not really forget what has occur to us, because anything that happens to us is part of our life learning experiences, and we should take it as such. God has ask us to forgive, we should forgive however, we need to be wise and know that forgiveness does not mean we have to always reconcile. For instance if someone has done a horrible act to us, we must not reconcile with that person even though we have forgiven him or her. Forgiveness does not call for reconciliation, we must stay away from that person because we do not deserve to be hurt over and over.
Forgiveness can change your life!
“Bloom where you are planted”, I take it as an invitation to do the best I can wherever I go, wherever I am, making use of the resources available to me. What does blooming where you are planted have to do with forgiveness? It is very simple, really. The moment you do not forgive, you stop growing. If someone has done something you perceive as invasive, annoying, inappropriate, even obscene, unpleasant, disgusting, in some way offensive to you, and you find it difficult to forgive, or unforgivable in your eyes, keeping lists of the things that “someone has done to me”, and holding grudges, unhealthy chemical reactions start taking place in your body. God knows what is good for your body that is why he said to forbear and forgive one another. When you truly forgive, you come to have the peace and understanding that can only come from God. No body else can give you that peace. You then, can continue to peacefully live with yourself because you had releasedthe unhealthy grudges that can only drag you down, making you a prisoner of your own unforgiving heart. You have created your own unpleasant environment, by choosing not to forgive, relationships can not develop, friendships are at a stand still. Love has to be a part of your life, mind and soul, so you can forgive and forbear those who had done you wrong. Forgiving is the secret to living a full and joyous life.