When the mother makes the decision to breastfeed her newborn she is taking on a great responsibility, that will benefit both mother and baby. The effects of unrestricted breastfeeding are undeniable, in particular the fact that baby regains his or her birth weight by day 9. Unrestricted breastfeeding requires dedication, patience, and it is time consuming for the mother; it has a positive effect on continuation of breastfeeding, as a result delayed weaning. During the initial period of breastfeeding it is quintessential to give no artificial teats or pacifiers.If the plan is to breastfeed,pacifier must be avoided.The use of the pacifier can have an effect on latch on problems. Breastfeed your baby based on cues, that is when baby shows signs of hunger, do not wait until he is crying, that is a very late sign, and proceeding with feeding until baby shows signs of satiation. As wonderful as breastfeeding is for the Dyad or mother and her baby, it comes a time to wean. The most common acceptable time to wean is about two years. Not everyone is the same, so there are individual differences in readiness for this process to take total effect. Research shows that the mother is the one that has stronger feelings against termination of breastfeeding. Three kinds of weaning are : Gradual weaning, this one takes weeks or months. Deliberate weaning, takes planning and effort , initiated by the mother. Abrupt weaning , sudden, immediate cessation of breastfeeding, done forcefully by mother on baby or on the dyad by others.
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Thursday, July 1st, 2010Talk to you positively!
Tuesday, June 29th, 2010Get in the good habit of talking to yourself in a positive vein, by doing so your present and future will be improved. Try it for two weeks, see how it goes. When you talk to yourself positively, your attitude changes, you are more interested in life, in people and what they are all about. You also attract positive people and positive people are attracted to you. When you see the reality of what I am telling you, you will want to continue on this path. Your success depends on it, you can practice talking to yourself with more of a conscious effort, you will be able to notice cause and effect as you watch the results. You will feel better about yourself, it is very important to feel better about yourself, this dictates your decision making. Decisions affect you and others around you. When you feel good, you will be good to other people, in the same manner if others feel good, chances are they will be “nice” to others. Love yourself and think and talk positive thoughts. If you are good to you and talk positive to yourself, you will treat others well, as you want to be treated. Go ahead, enjoy talking positively to yourself, do not give room to old negative patterns of thinking. Remember negative thoughts are like ants that will only hurt you, shake them off!
The Isolation-Depression link!
Wednesday, June 23rd, 2010It is a fact of life that if we do not bond with other people we often get depressed. Depressed individuals are usually not interested, and do not “feel like” being with other people, thus isolating themselves. A cascade of events follow, isolated individual, less bonding takes place, less activity less people interaction, depression increases and it perpetuates a vicious circle. You must get out of the vicious circle. Isolation is not the solution to anything, unless you have TB (tuberculosis) and need to be in isolation to prevent from spreading infection to your community.
If your isolation is causing you to be depressed, reach out, seek help from a recognized therapist, perhaps you might need medication. If you are averse to taking medication, check with your physician see if strenuous exercise will be another option for you to get out of your depressed state.
If you notice that you frequently are tired, sleep deprived, attacked by negative thinking, and that you have lost your motivation, and out of nowhere you came up with suicidal thoughts, have lost interest in sex; these elements are going to take you to depression avenue. Help is out there and you must seek it. A research shows that depression is the number eight leading cause of death in the United States of America. It is OK to call for help, you are not alone.
Men, Women and s..!
Tuesday, June 22nd, 2010Viva la diferencia! Men and women are so different. Books and books exist, were and are written,about the differences between men and women. Physically men are stronger than women, that is no secret. What is fascinating to me is that their brain wiring accounts for remarkable differences. Due to the anatomy physiology of the brain their responses to intimacy and other relationship issues can be accounted for. The story is told about a woman who was dissatisfied with her husband’s general performance, she had decided to be faithful to him no matter what, however after a while she had enough and got involved with a coworker who kept flirting with her. They agreed that they would have an affair just “for fun”. She found herself wanting to spend more time with her coworker, and became more attached to him, she was pushing him to meet twice a week, rather than once a week. He was not as interested as before, things changed, he found himself more detached.She thought she could just break it off, she felt used,however her limbic system(in her brain) had news for her. Research has shown that women’s deep limbic brains are larger than men’s therefore women have an easier time getting in touch with their feelings. Women have a more acute sense of smell than men, they also have an increase ability to bond than their counterpart, they also generally speaking can express their feelings at will. The woman of the story made the wrong choice, consequently lost her husband and her acquaintance, falling pray to depression.
Children are affected by your parenting!Part 2
Monday, June 21st, 2010Your brain likes good thoughts, remember that bad thoughts are as ants that can ruin the best picnic. Teach your children the art of healing their body by extinguishing the ants. Help them fight depression and discouragement. ANT’s stand for Automatic Negative Thoughts says Dr. Amen.
Fight the ANT’s. Examples of ANT’s are “Father never is here for me”, ” Nobody likes me”, ” It’s all my fault”. Blaming is hurtful and harmful. All these negative thoughts affect your life, what goes on in your brain through the course of the day can determine how you behave. If your pattern is ANT’s you will reap self-defeating behavior.
The oposite is true, positive thoughts will self promote you, you will be successful, and happy.
Insist and teach your children that ANT’s can hurt their relationships, their work, their lives. Teach them to be aware of the ANT’s, so as soon as one of the negative thoughts pops up, they can talk back to it; this takes its power away and they can gain control over their mood.
Encourage your children to surround themselves with people who can provide definite positive bonding. Surround themselves with great smells. Elements to enhance bonding are, clear communication, assuming the best, keeping the relationships fresh, notice the good aspects of a relationship, nurture trust, making time for good relationships.
Pleasant smells affect moods, fragrances affect the working of your brain in a positive and powerful way.
I hope this post will help your parent child relationship.
Children are affected by your parenting!
Sunday, June 20th, 2010No question about it we can enhance positive thought pattern and create deep strong connections. We can start when our children are little, by leaving fingerprints of a good positive bible text such as the one that talks about whatever is true, pure, honorable, right, lovely, whatever of good repute, we should notice its excellence, anything worthy of praise without a doubt, let your mind dwell on these positive and good things.
Our brain’s limbic system is responsible for the process of our sense of smell, it is as a magnificent computer, able to store highly charged emotional memories that have to do with our appetite cycles, sexuality, moods and bonding experiences.
We must protect our children’s brains. Every though we have in our brain sends an electrical signal throughout the brain. Our thoughts have what is called physical properties. These affect every cell in our body. You can attest to this just observe when you have a bad thought, your body reacts to it, I do not have to tell you that you become angry, tense, your heart rate goes up, your palms start to sweat. The opposite is true for happy thoughts, your body reacts to your good thoughts as well. You must help your children train their thoughts to be good thoughts. Help them see bad thoughts as ants at a picnic. You want to get rid of those ants.
Beyond Anxiety…
Friday, June 18th, 2010When you let anxiety take control of your life, you have gone beyond your own boundaries, you are in a way insulting yourself, invading your own territory. Do not fear, there is a point of return, take a deep breath, find a quiet place, breath deeply and think. Anxiety is not your commander, you are the one in charge. Do not allow fear to destroy you and in the process cause collateral damage.
If you have not already done it, count your blessings, thank God for giving you one more day to breath, to walk, to use your arms, your eyes to see, your mouth to talk to someone, your ears to hear, you have a heart to pump blood through your body, giving you an opportunity to be alive. Do not allow your anxiety to take you to the wrong side of the spectrum, where life does not have a chance, do not even go there!
Sit down and take three deep breaths, or take deep breaths as you take a solace moment, you owe it to yourself, you are a valuable individual who wants more out of life than anxiety and negativity. It is not bad to be anxious when your anxiety is within the healthy limits. Do not let it get out of hand. You can do it , you can decide to be calm, so you can make the right decisions and continue enjoying your wonderful life. Share your calmness with others, let it flow out of you!
Possitively Angry, post anger!
Thursday, June 17th, 2010Diffusing anger is a conscious choice made by you and you alone. However the normal response to the perceived or real attack to your ego is anger. You will not benefit if you stay in that anger state. Anger is normal and very human, to be angry is also divine, God gets angry. When God gets angry He knows exactly what to do He is God. I figured that if it is OK for God to get angry, it is OK for me to get angry.
He says in the scriptures that you can get angry, yet not sin. He also mentions that we should get rid of anger, bitterness, wrath. He wants us to be loving one to another, tenderhearted loving, forgiving one another even as God in Christ forgave us. Turning your anger into a positive experience resides in your conscious choice. God gives you the creative power to do it, he has given you a mind that when used to its highest potential produces astonishing life transforming results. You can start by giving baby steps, when angry, if possible remove yourself from the situation, let your emotion be diffused by using some kind of exercise such as walking, running, jogging, swimming, if you are into cleaning, clean. All these activities help you blow out steam, transforming the anger into a source of peace and happiness, allowing your mind to replace the anger with love and kindness, forgiveness, thus helping your health and well-being.
Anger…
Monday, June 14th, 2010Posing yourself the questions: Why do I feel angry? Do I even know?
You may speculate all you want, the truth of the matter is clear, you do know the answers. You know why you have allowed yourself to feel angry.
Is anger a universal emotion? Yes and No. Yes if it includes other emotions such as frustration, annoyance, contempt, vengefulnes, envy to name a few of the category members.
What makes you angry?
Deep in the core of the matter is the demeaning act. This is to say that we have been considered less than we want to be; we have been sent an attack against the “me and mine”, therefore as a result we have a wounded self-esteem.
If you analyse yourself, you can feel angry without being angry. Emotional feelings are subjective. Feeling is temporary, emotion is more abstract, it involves a subject-object relation to constitute the emotion.
What to do about your anger? You need your problem-solving behaviour to be generated or to kick in.
You do not want your anger to turn into emotional aggressiveness.
It is OK to be angry, to feel angry. You must channel your anger so that it travels an avenue that will convert all that bottle up energy into a positively productive expression of emotion. Avoiding in this manner a destructive outburst. Some activities that you may use as outlets to diffuse your anger could be: playing tennis, jogging, jumping rope, exercise, hiking.
Working is a blessing!
Tuesday, June 8th, 2010Just about everyone can agree on one thing, that working is a blessing. There is something innate within us that calls for the need to do something productive. Working is that outlet, and that something that fills that void within the human soul. We must be careful, avoiding working in excess turning ourselves into workaholics. Working in excess can destroy a family, when we lose sight of part of the reason we are working in the first place. A good plan is to poise to live a balanced life by making the necessary adjustments as situations require.
When you have a job where you work for pay, or when you have a job where you volunteer and work for no monetary remuneration, both of these circumstances provide satisfaction, and thus a blessing to the working man or woman.
We must strive to keep it a blessing to all involved. We do not want our family to feel that our family life is second to our work. One way to ensure that we take time to be with our family is to set appointments. marking them in the calendar, along with our work schedule, making sure we do not invade our family time with work appointments. It is good to set boundaries, protecting in this way our family life, keeping our work at work.
Working, having a job is a blessing, as we keep it separate from our family life.